I’ve decided to open myself all the way up and tell you the truth… I’m naturally a “big girl!” I’ve struggled with weight ever since I graduated from high school. What can I say? I’m an emotional eater that loves food, restaurants, and good wine (all a recipe for disaster on a girls waist line). So I truly understand just how difficult it is to stop looking at the scale.
Consequently, I’ve become more disciplined throughout the years with food, but I can’t tell you how important it has been for me to accept my body.
The truth is, I’ve never been a small woman. I am what they call “big boned” with curves. This means I always weigh more than I look (check out the images below from about 4 years ago when I was a size 18).
The Scale Does Not Define You OR Your Style
At times, we can become fixated over the numbers on the scale (totally understandable). We must remind ourselves that we know LIFE goes on, and just because we’ve gained a few pounds, does not mean we need to be RUDE to ourselves. YES, RUDE! So stop looking at the scale!
It’s disrespectful and RUDE to not honor ourselves and dress like we give zero damns, when we know we do! I honestly consider it abusing yourself. You know you deserve better than that, girlfriend!
I have clients of all different shapes and sizes, and know for a fact that all women are beautiful! I have full bodied women standing at a size 22 full of confidence, who will put a model size 6 to shame! Why? Because girlfriend knows how to dress her body at a size 22! She honors and accepts her curves, and shops for the right items to flatter HER body and align with her personal style.
As a woman that has been every size in the rainbow, I want to give you 3 tips that will make you LOVE what you see in the mirror, regardless of what the scale says.
SHOP YOUR SIZE – While you’re going up and down the scale, accept your current size and buy it! When you go shopping, you may notice you are a size 10 in one brand and a size 12 in another. This is normal! The important thing is the garment fits! You should also keep in mind which fit flatters you most. If your hips or bust are dominant, I recommend going up a size and tailoring down if necessary for an optimal fit. Tailoring makes all the difference!
WEAR DARKER COLORS – You can make yourself look thinner in a matter of seconds by wearing the right colors in the areas that you want to minimize. The trick is to know that dark colors absorb light while light colors attract it. So if you want to draw attention away from areas you are sensitive about, wear darker colors in those areas to absorb the light. Then, you can highlight another area of your body, like your face, with great makeup to attract light.
Example: Currently, a lot of women are wearing denim and have issues finding the perfect pair. If you carry your weight in the bottom half of your body, go with the darker denim to minimize. The lighter denim will highlight that you are dominant below.
OUT OF SIGHT OUT OF MIND – Nothing makes you feel worse than opening your closet and looking at a bunch of clothes that no longer fit. Yep, it’s probably temporary, but I recommend folding those items down into a storage container or putting them all in the back of your closet.
In order for you to see what you have and make good outfit choices, you need to be looking at the clothes that are working for you today!
The most important thing is to stop looking at the scale! I promise you, the scale does not control your confidence. All you really need is a firm grasp on your sense of style and you will be good to go. And don’t forget, I am always just an email away!